Doing
Pretty Good: The New Normal
I
am not putting this together to get sympathy but hopefully for you to
understand what may be happening when other people going through chemo treatment say they
are doing “pretty good” or “Not bad.” These are my
reflections, others I am sure are different.
Many
people ask me how I am doing. Unless something drastic is going on I
say something like “I'm doing pretty good.”
So
when I say things are going fairly well...here is what is happening
as the “new normal.”
Feet
and toes. My feet are very sensitive, especially the toes. Hurts
doing nothing, hurts a lot more walking, so try not to do much at
once. Other times I just say, “what the hell” and deal with the
pain. Use wheel chair or electric cart if going very far. At the same time there is a great deal of numbness in my
feet.(pain and numbness-strange bedfellows). When I wake up in the
morning, it feels like I have thick callouses on the bottom of my
feet. Feels like cardboard attached, even though the skin of my feet
are soft.
Hands
and fingers. Pain a great deal of the time. Hurts to type but I
keep doing it Although learning to do a lot with voice activation on
computer and smart phone. Then just have to edit it. Even fun to
see what it thinks I said!!
Sensitivity
to cold. Mostly fingers and hands. Hard to get gloves that are
warm enough in this weather. Worse beginning from chemo treatment
day, diminishes slightly over time. Wear gloves a great deal of the
time. Essential to get things out of the freezer. Forget
gloves...grab it and stick it under my arm until I can put it down
safely.
Coordination
is poor. I have fallen several times and been lucky many more
times as there was something nearby for me to grab on or fall
against. Use a handrail to get into shower/tub. Joyce won't let me
drive, for some reason she wants to get there safely. I don't argue
much although it is hard to give all the work of driving to Joyce.
(To be fair she does let me turn the car around in the driveway!!)
Skin
breakdown. My skin is much thinner, so more likely to scrape
myself and have no idea how I did it.
Hands.
I have cracks on my palm side of hands. Fighting cracks almost
constantly, especially below first joint of each thumb, and at other
joints as well. The best treatment is “Bag Balm.” Works better
and lasts longer than the best of lotions. I also use it to keep
bottom of feet from cracking. I've used 10 times more bag balm this
year than the previous 67 years total. However, I highly recommend
it. Oncologist recommended. Dr. Lavelle's dad was a vet for 65
years.
Use
of hands. Have to use opener on jars, 2 liter bottles, etc.
Hurts to open plastic lids on plastic containers such as cottage
cheese, tupperware, plastic shoe boxes, lids to totes, etc. Hurts to
open the non-safety caps on pills. Kills my fingers. There is pain
carrying almost anything without wearing gloves. Amazing how many
things have what feel like “sharp edges.” Tried to carry a not
so heavy banker's box, and the pain when I grabbed the hand-hold
area was incredible. Made a mad dash for the gloves. I have about 20
pair of gloves stashed around the house.
Finger
nails. Constantly breaking and cracking as they are thin.
Toe
nails Essentially lost large toenail on each foot, but hurts
less since podiatrist treated and trimmed. After chemo a lot of
redness on first and second toe.
Hair
loss Lost about 90% initially, but growing back quite a bit.
More curly than before, says Joyce.
Nose.
I have used a year's supply of Kleenex each month. Nose starts
dripping “out of the blue.” Almost always when I eat. Every
time I blow my nose, it is bloody. Fortunately does not continue
bleeding, just the new normal. Unfortunately, this creates a cycle
of a build up of blood clots in my nose, which blocks breathing.
Nasal
passages are very dry and “crusty.” (chemo treatment attacks
fast growing cancer cells. However, cells in mouth and nasal
passages are fast growing, so they are damaged as well.) Lots and
lots of saline spray. I use humidifiers. Visiting nurse recently
recommended K-Y Jelly applied with a Q-tip. It works, but I can
think of more enjoyable uses for K-Y.
Mouth
Sores. There is a high risk of severe mouth sores. They were
terrible in the early months of treatment. Have learned to be more
aggressive with preventive treatment. Rinse my mouth 6-8 times a
day, almost every day, with a salt and baking soda combination. Last
few cycles have had only small canker sores between lip and teeth.
A friend whose husband is a dentist recommended s great pain killing
and healing paste.** (Thanks, Judy..Joyce and I played cupid with
Judy and Gary about 30 years ago)
Sensory
feedback As it is diminished I can be drooling and not have any
sensation of it happening. Point it out to me, please. Joyce
does!!!
Tiredness
is my constant companion, but varies. I find that I am tired
whether I do or don't do much. Sleep more than usual.
**It
is sold under brand name of Oralone Dental Paste- Rx required. It
adheres to the sore, and gives me 8-12 hours of relief. Amazing
stuff. Oncology doctor, NP, and nurses not familiar with it, so I am
constantly promoting it.